Kind of similar to how Alex Hormozi measures his own work. Where he says that he did something well when he put everything in there, there's nothing more left to give and then the outcome doesn't matter he already did good enough
1. Everything is a process - the ebbs and flow of pain, the practice and failing and gradual improvement, the present moment - and this process will continue until we die. It's better to focus on the process, putting our attention on what we can do now, rather than dwelling on the future.
2. It is hugely important to question, because it increases your awareness of choices and limitations in your thoughts, and opens up new paths you never knew existed. This process of questioning helps you find your way.
3. Truths can coexist. There is no ultimate truth that we can know. Statements maybe can't contradict, but truth can. Paradoxes are what organize our lives, and a lot of life is about finding a balance between either opposites, or coexisting truths.
More like being process oriented rather than goal oriented, because the process is always consistent, but goals end. If you can love the process you can be happy right now, rather than for fleeting moments after achieving a goal.
A lot of these ideas resonated with me :) I once read a book "the subtle art of not giving a f-ck" (I was skeptical at first, but my favorite teacher had recommended it), and it also brought up the hedonic treadmill and a more accurate nature of happiness. I entered a period of reflection that continues even today, and though many things are going well in life, I have to remember that not everything will ever be perfect. Pain and discomfort is normal, and better to be accepted.
From one small, probably younger Substack writer to another, keep doing what you're doing!
Thank you for the kind words and the like! (as well as subscribing) I'm glad the post resonated with you :)
Was the book you mentioned written by Mark Manson? I haven't read it but I have read several of his articles and his newsletter, quite like his work.
Yeah exactly, mhm, I agree with you. Especially because by accepting discomfort we remove the pain of resistance to something inevitable. And in addition, we survived and live now because our ancestors had pain, which signaled to them life's shit and motivated them to improve. Which doesn't negate the fact that feeling pain feels awful but shows that it is (at least currently) kind of baked into our biology and partially a reason for the existence of modern society. (Which is still very shitty, but less than other civilizations.)
You've mentioned that you went through a stretch of reflection. What were the three most significant insights you've gained in this period, if I may ask?
Ah okay, now I understand, thanks for explaining!
Kind of similar to how Alex Hormozi measures his own work. Where he says that he did something well when he put everything in there, there's nothing more left to give and then the outcome doesn't matter he already did good enough
1. Everything is a process - the ebbs and flow of pain, the practice and failing and gradual improvement, the present moment - and this process will continue until we die. It's better to focus on the process, putting our attention on what we can do now, rather than dwelling on the future.
2. It is hugely important to question, because it increases your awareness of choices and limitations in your thoughts, and opens up new paths you never knew existed. This process of questioning helps you find your way.
3. Truths can coexist. There is no ultimate truth that we can know. Statements maybe can't contradict, but truth can. Paradoxes are what organize our lives, and a lot of life is about finding a balance between either opposites, or coexisting truths.
Thanks for the insights, they seem interesting!
I haven't so far heard that you should question because it will give you more options for action, but makes sense.
Do you mean with the first insight that we should focus on the work and how it's done or to just focus on the present?
More like being process oriented rather than goal oriented, because the process is always consistent, but goals end. If you can love the process you can be happy right now, rather than for fleeting moments after achieving a goal.
And yes, it was Mark Manson! Also, I explain a lot better in my writing pieces if you'd like to check those out :)
A lot of these ideas resonated with me :) I once read a book "the subtle art of not giving a f-ck" (I was skeptical at first, but my favorite teacher had recommended it), and it also brought up the hedonic treadmill and a more accurate nature of happiness. I entered a period of reflection that continues even today, and though many things are going well in life, I have to remember that not everything will ever be perfect. Pain and discomfort is normal, and better to be accepted.
From one small, probably younger Substack writer to another, keep doing what you're doing!
Hi Azark,
Thank you for the kind words and the like! (as well as subscribing) I'm glad the post resonated with you :)
Was the book you mentioned written by Mark Manson? I haven't read it but I have read several of his articles and his newsletter, quite like his work.
Yeah exactly, mhm, I agree with you. Especially because by accepting discomfort we remove the pain of resistance to something inevitable. And in addition, we survived and live now because our ancestors had pain, which signaled to them life's shit and motivated them to improve. Which doesn't negate the fact that feeling pain feels awful but shows that it is (at least currently) kind of baked into our biology and partially a reason for the existence of modern society. (Which is still very shitty, but less than other civilizations.)
You've mentioned that you went through a stretch of reflection. What were the three most significant insights you've gained in this period, if I may ask?
Wish you a great day!